Nickie it’s so good to find another military spouse. I was both. A spouse before and a spouse after. My husband did his basic at Fort Polk, LA,. He then spent a year in Vietnam, all before I ever met him. When he retired he did a newspaper route for a while with his brother. Went through cars like ice cream in July. Then he did handy man work with another guy. Then he gradually got too sick to work. When we moved down here in 2010 I was to the point of calling to check on him from work. I scolded him explaining if you don’t answer the phone I’m scared you’re lying dead in the floor. That was my biggest fear walking in from work and finding him gone. I’m not sure I could’ve handled it.